I know I’m full of posts today! 
Enjoy it because next week might be slim…
I am teary-eyed right now because my brothers and I are about to accomplish what we could not during my father’s life…a happy family.
I just have memories of one of them always disrespecting my mom—so I kept him at a distance. The other I recall as being slow and aloof. Well, there is yet another MIA, but this isn’t about him.
I was about to see my brother, but he’s headed here to put flowers on my dad’s grave along with the other brother. He’s said he wanted to see my mom, and she called on my line about that time. She agreed to lunch on her break and will meet my brothers and me at a restaurant not far from our house, my dad’s favorite spot.
My family, all of my dad’s outside children and myself along with my parents, never once sat down at the same table and dined together. We’ve been at family gatherings together, but not ever as a unit. I still call myself an only child because I was for so long even though the boys are older.
What amazes me is that my dad would’ve been ecstatic if we could’ve done this while he was alive. Maybe what matters most is that we’ve gotten it right now.
am sure your dad is smilling wherever he is seeing all this
Yeah, things went very well.
I spent a weekend with my dad’s family and learned some more things that just make me proud to call him my pa.
Comment by Shazza — June 22, 2009 @ 1:31 p
praise God for changing hearts and circumstances. that makes my heart smile. though the family get-together didn’t happen during your Daddy’s time here on Earth, its occurrence is not late nor is it without point. i, too, think it would have been awesome for your Daddy to have witnessed such an event and for him to have been a part of it. But the blessing of all of you together, as a family, in fellowship, is no less a blessing today than it would have been last year. i’m grateful to hear that you all were able to be there with and for each other. may the barriers continue to be broken.
You really wouldn’t believe it, or perhaps, you would. I found out some things about my niece that reallllly softened my heart towards her and helped me to understand why my dad tried to do so much to help her. It was a weekend of miracles and broken barriers.
Comment by dragonflysoul — June 22, 2009 @ 1:31 p
that’s awesome, ms. A. seriously. i know how hard it is when someone has really rubbed you the wrong way and even talking to them is a chore. and then you learn something about them that makes you unable to hold onto all of those hard feelings. that is awesome and that is GOD! i admire you for opening yourself to those softening feelings towards her. not that you all will necessarily become best friends but it shows great strength of character that you have even allowed your heart to soften when it comes to her. a lot of people are NOT like that - and will hear of someone else’s mishaps or tragedies and say, “pssh..i don’t care, i still don’t like her.” we need more people who are willing to have even a little compassion for those who are sometimes difficult to love.
Comment by dragonflysoul — June 23, 2009 @ 1:31 p