What would you do if someone of the same sex told you s/he had a crush on you?
Would your response be different if the person were a transie?
If you’re gay, how do you handle opposite-sex crushes? How is your response received?
Just wondering.
May 30, 2008
Same-Sex Crush
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wow…my reaction would depend on how well i knew homegirl and if we had an established friendship. if we were friends, i’d love her through it, but kindly tell her it ain’t gonna happen, cap’ain. but i honestly wouldn’t let it effect our relationship, so long as she respects my person.
are you experiencing this now? (you don’t have to answer that if you’d prefer to keep that private, and i respect that)
i’ve had that experience with female acquaintances/strangers, but it didn’t bother me because they weren’t people i needed to interact with regularly (or ever again) or that i had any friendship invested in. in those situations, i’ve politely declined and then kept a bit of distance, not out of “homophobia” (i hate that stupid word) but just to avoid confusion.
Nah, I’m not dealing with this. Reading LH’s posts about gay marriage got me to thinking about it. I think beautiful people tend to attract a wide range anyway. I’ve been approached by friends and flirted with by strangers of the same sex as well as by the same of the opposite sex. A kind “no thank you” tends to be enough most times. You just have to make your boundaries clear so feelings don’t get hurt.
Comment by dragonflysoul — May 30, 2008 @ 1:31 p
I’d be kinda grossed out. Plus, lesbians don’t particularly like me. Especially the Lil Wayne looking ones. I stand for everything they don’t. LOL When a dude has a crush on me, I need him to bang me over the head with it or I will never pick up on it.
You are the second person in two days who has said this thing about not getting clues about crushes. What is up with that? I’m sure you must notice the signs, so why don’t you get the hints? I have to admit though that I prefer the direct approach with this as well, but I still know when someone has a crush even if I don’t acknowledge it.
Comment by Hostess — May 30, 2008 @ 1:31 p
If a man hit on me, I don’t think I’d feel flattered.
It’d be like sorry, this left-handed batter doesn’t swing like that. Yo, chief, the only “pitching” or “catching” I would do would be on a real baseball diamond, ya feel me?
The very idea of one man kissing, fondling or screwing another man is gross. Sorry to be so blunt about it.
I have a male friend who had been cordial to a gay associate and the dude then approached him flamboyantly in public. My dear beloved friend told him in no uncertain terms not to try it again.
I guess that IS awkward for you alpha males.
Comment by profunksticated — May 30, 2008 @ 1:31 p
well.. i have had a few approach me, to be fair i was in the company of gay people, and it was assumed i had to be homosexual myself, just politely say, sorry i don’t swim that way…
i haven’t experienced that with a close friend…
Were folks apologetic when you told them your position? How did they respond?
Comment by Shazza — May 31, 2008 @ 1:31 p
I’m blog-hopping before going to work and shaping young minds, LOL, and I happened on your site…
I’m bisexual, so I’m comfortable with men and women approaching me.
I’ve never been approached by a tranny, so I think my initial reaction would be surprise.
“Maria, Mariaaaaaa, you remind me of a West Side Story…..” I, too, have a name made famous by pop culture, and I used to hate when people would approach me with the movie scene as a greeting. Sorry.
I’m laughing so hard at your last line, and big kudos to you for shaping young minds. Welcome!! You come by anytime you please. All views are welcome here. I’m sexual, period, and I’m not all the time comfortable with either one approaching me. I have to say that the type of approach determines the response. I was once told by a younger female that she had a crush on me, and I couldn’t respond to her in a way that would hurt her feelings. I knew she was emotionally fragile, so it really depends on the person. I’ve also been approached by a younger male student during class and he got cut during class, with words of course, and I knew that he would be just fine because he was being inappropriate.
Comment by Maria — June 2, 2008 @ 1:31 p
Well… they were apologetic, the one incidence that i can remember from a few years ago… i had gone do a gay bar for drinks with a gay mate, who assured me there are straight guys etc. and there was this dude who was with a girl, i was seriously checking out and he amazed me as they were walking towards there dorr, they stopped to whisper between themselves, and he started walking towards us. i just thought wow, that is a bit gutsy, esp for london, guys here never approach women like that. i was smiling inside as i had been checking him. and he came to me to tell me his friend fancied me, i had to ask him to repeat himself, as i thought i heard wrong… and when i told him sorry i am straight, he apologised and walked away.
but other that gay scenes, it has never happed in a normal day, or with close friends… that would be different, it might even affect the relationship. i do have gay acquaintances, but never lesbian friend. though there is one bi-friend of mine, and well…yeah, she does fancy me, but that is a nother story
LOL!!!!! This is too funny!!! You thought it was the guy checking you!!! ROFL!!!! It was a “gay” bar!!!
Comment by Shazza — June 2, 2008 @ 1:31 p